divorce · Failure · Family

Good Enough

  I think there is a moment in every Leaver's life when they're like... "Oh fuck.  What have I done?!" I've had a lot of those moments over the course of the last 6 months and I would be a liar if I told you otherwise.  The Left's hurt is immediate, based on my experience… Continue reading Good Enough

Failure · Family

Bad People

I have come to the realization  that most people assume that a person leaves a marriage/relationship because they've found someone else or been cheated upon by their partner.  That assumption has been one of my larger struggles  with my divorce.  No.  Neither of us cheated.  Neither of us found someone else.  We just... weren't working.… Continue reading Bad People

Failure · Family

Strength in Leaving

As promised, a handy-dandy quote of encouragement for the leaver.  I'll leave it here somehwere so you can copy and share.  I'd ask that you leave the tag, obviously. ANYway. Today, I am doing better.  Sometimes I have to talk things out with people who know me, who knew us as a couple, and I… Continue reading Strength in Leaving

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Being the Leaver

You know what I've noticed?  There are a lot of self-help quotes for people who have been left.  There are a lot of supportive words for people who didn't want the divorce, but were forced to do it anyway.  There are a lot of resources and means of coping passed around circles of friends and… Continue reading Being the Leaver

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The Way Life Looks

I would be a liar if I said life was easy right now. It's been a while since I last posted or gave any sort of update, so perhaps I should start there.  Please note that I am going to do this in the only way I know how, sparing likely crucial details because I… Continue reading The Way Life Looks